3 months VIP programme

3 months VIP programme

Speeding up your child wish in 3 months and 3 liberating decisions.

Are you a high achieving woman, in her race against time to become a mother, and facing sperm or/ and egg donation?

On the outside everyone sees a powerlady, who makes it in life and who has everything her heart desires.

In stark contrast to what people see on the outside, is how you feel on the inside: a lode of pain and yearning. Because you want to become a mother (again)…

Do you recognize this?

Let’s build a strong foundation for your decisions and speed up your childwish.

3 decisions are the common thread through te programme,but each process is tailor- made depending on your story.

Decision 1: yes or no?

You, as a future parent, wants to be convinced that taking the step to sperm and/ or egg donation feels good.

You want to avoid your child carrying remaining doubts and grief for you.

For that reason you are going to:

  • fully connect with your deep desire.
  • look at your childwish as part of a bigger picture: your family system.
  • start your grieving process about your ideal picture (a genetically own child with your dream partner).
  • ‘dig’ in your different layers of doubts about sperm donation and/ of egg donation.

Decision 2: if yes, then how?

You want to discover if there is a route in the mind- boggling maze of possibilities, that is just right for you and your future child.

You want to avoid going along with options that don’t feel quite right.

For that reason you are going to:

  • reflect about crucial questions, determining your decision:
    what kind of donor or donors’ profile (anonymous/open/known) will you choose? what information do you want from the donor? what role will you play in the selection of the donor? which fertility centre/which country can you go to based on your values and preferences?…
  • already start an exploratary conversation with a known donor/ fertility clinic/ sperm bank, if you feel ready

I hereby apply all my background knowledge and network.

If necessary, I can continue to be of very practical assistance by

  • putting you in contact with centres, experts or organisations.
  • help you prepare for meetings.

Decision 3: the future, what next?

The donor story lasts a lifetime. You want to know how you can integrate the donor story in the life story of your child.

You want to look ahead and avoid this donor story once making your child unhappy.

For that reason you are going to:

  • reflect about the place of the donor in the story.
  • make a plan about if/ who/ how/ when to talk to about this
  •  reflect on your child’s possible search for the donor: what is possible and how do you react as a parent?

This is what the VIP programme includes specifically.

 

Intensive 1-1 mentorship during 3 months

1250 euros 

 

5 individual mentor moments (= 5 hours)

In this programme, there are 5 moments in which we meet 1-1 (live or online).

In these sessions your process will get a boost!

Family setup

An important base for the programme is an enlightening family setup is included in which you discover patterns in your familiy system of origin and in which you put every member of your future family system on its right place.

Inspiration sheets + my personal feedback

A valuable set of inspiration sheets with information, reflection questions, tools  provide deepening and change . You use them between the sessions you receive my feeback, and we use the outcome during the sessions

7/7 Whatsapp support

Do you need extra support, do you have questions, a difficult moment,… I am always there for you during the programme via whatsapp! This is worth its weight in gold.

BONUS: Audio recording visualisation exercise
This powerful visualisation exercise gives you a big shift in your decision process in hardly half an hour.And you will enjoy re- listening.

This is the end result.

  • You are not losing any more precious time! These years of your life are worth their weigth in gold in terms of your child wish and you grab them!
  • You have finally reached a BREAKTHROUGH! You have taken a liberating step in whichever direction and it feels like a positive choice.
  • You feel peace of mind again and much less chronic stress, including physical discomfort.
  • If you are in a relation, it works most liberating for you as a couple that you made a decision.
    If you are single, you can start dating again with a clear story and without seeing every date as a potential (biological) parent.
  • The energy that was absorbed before this ‘plunge’ will now be applied to something else. It will start to “flow” again.
  • And with respect to those people in your immediate surroundings you now dare to stand firmly behind that choice. What a relief!
  • Looking to the future, you know that there is no blame: you did everything you could to make a 100% heartfelt and conscious choice. You are preventing doubts from overwhelming you at a later date.
  • You have a clear plan of action.

Do you also want this end result?

Then let’s meet for an online free match call!

Yes, I would like to have a free match call.

 

I was able to choose for egg donation by looking more mindly at myself and the situation.

I was struggling with the question: ‘May I want to choose for egg donation?’ I thought it was partly my own fault because I had not reflected about my desire to have children in time.

Independently of that, I struggled with ethical questions and questions of meaning: how far can I go in stretching possibilities?, where are my limits?, what with our age?, …

The difference in desire between me and my partner also played a role.

By going through this coaching programme, I have dared to shine my light on my desire, that was covered with many layers of fears and opinions.

I also came to a fundamental understanding of myself: I easily identify myself with the ‘victim’, the person to whom things happen, the one who is more ‘debtless’ then the perperprator who makes sure who gets what he wants and dares to be guilty.

The moment I got the image of egg donation as a gift dat I could give myself, a lot of things started to move. If there are fears, I return to his image and I think: this is ok, I can give myself this gift!

Also the family setup, with the future child and the donor, had a lot of impact. My conclusion was: as long as love is the guiding principle, it’s ok. I am still clinging to that.

I was able to choose for egg donation by looking more mindly at myself and the situation. In difficult moments, I can go back to those insights and bring my desire back to mind, and this brings me back to track

 

Viki helped me see the reality of egg donation: a courageous step that requires continuous attention, before and after the birth of a child.

Daniëlle (46)

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