You are faced with a huge dilemma: are you going to follow through on wanting to have a child through donorconception? YES OR NO?
You cannot allow yourself to procrastinate any longer in taking the plunge. It is now or never.
In this VIP programme, we work towards a clear YES or a clear NO.
We will leave behind your story of facts and scenarios with which you are very familiar by now, you are completely stuck.
Time for a change!
I know from experience that certain aspects can be in the way off this decision.
We will have to deal with them to reach a breakthrough.
We look for the ‘puzzle pieces’ that are important to you, and fit them together.
Puzzle piece 1: Desire vs fear
You weigh the pros and cons of scenarios.
You worry a lot.
It is like playing a looped recording.
You can’t snap out of it.
The first step towards a breakthrough is to pause that recording: what lies underneath it?
What is it that drives you in wanting to become a mother?
What exactly are your deepest desires?
On the other hand, why is there resistance?
Where are these desires, doubts and fears actually coming from?
Puzzle piece 2: Everbody on his own place in the bigger picture
Your future familiy will be a ‘system’, al larger whole of people where everbody has his own, right place.
How does everbody compare to each other?
Who (the donor(s) included) gets which place in the system?
Your desire to have a child means an expansion to your original family system.
What influence does the family you grew up in have on your selection process concerning that desire to have a child?
It is very enlightening to look at this!
Puzzle piece 3: Loss as part of your story
With each option that you consider there is something to gain but there is also something to lose.
Often this means the loss of a piece of the ideal picture you had always had in your dreams.
What is it that feels like a loss to you that makes it difficult for you to go on?
Or which loss is it that still plays an underlying role (e.g. an earlier miscarriage)?
In order to open yourself to something new, you must first dare to put an end to something else.
That does not mean that you have to push aside the loss. On the contrary. It is a part of your story.
Puzzle piece 4: Strong self- esteem
You may tend to see yourself rather one-sidedly as the woman who has no (additional) child and maybe no partner, who needs a donor to build a familiy.
But you are so much more than that!
It is important that you make more of yourself and your life.
This is crucial for daring to take the plunge!
There may be feelings of ‘guilt’ or ‘failure’.
Then it is important that you be less hard on yourself.
Puzzle piece 5: What is still missing?
Where is there still resistance that is preventing that decision?
Which questions remain?
What is still lacking?
What does the VIP programme 1 provide you with?
You are not losing any more precious time!
You have stopped procrastinating and have prevented time from deciding for you!
You have finally reached a BREAKTHROUGH, a SHIFT!
You have taken a liberating step in whichever direction: the result may be a resounding ‘yes’ or a resounding ‘no’, but both are equally valuable!
In the event of a “yes”, I can continue to support you as a coach in wanting to have a child making use of my VIP- programme 2- ‘Yes, but NOW WHAT’.
With “no” as an answer, I could possibly refer you to someone within my network of coaches for a further interpretation of your path that is just as important.
You now have peace of mind, you have clarity.
The plunge has been taken and it feels like a positive choice.
The energy that was absorbed before this ‘plunge’ will now be applied to something else.
It will begin to “flow” again.
You will make choices again about other aspects in your life that were blocked because of your dilemma (your work, your home, etc.)
And with respect to those people in your immediate surroundings – those whom you find to be important – you now dare to stand firmly behind that choice.
What a relief!
Looking to the future, you know that there is no blame: you did everything you could to make a 100% heartfelt and conscious choice.
That awareness will give you peace of mind.
You are preventing doubts from overwhelming you at a later date.
I now stand 100% behind my choice.
I was stuck worrying about possibly becoming a single mother. Very practical: combining it with a job and hobbies, financially, etc. I was also confronted with the major dilemma: am I still going to wait for a partner or not?
Viki helped me to face reality (I don’t have the time to wait anymore, I cannot delay making a decision any longer), to look within myself, to convert my worries into opportunities, to see my desires and not only my fears.
At times it was very confrontational and emotional, but I was given the tools I needed and the odd push here and there to take the plunge myself in a safe environment.
I am glad I followed this programme because I am now ready to take that step and stand 100% behind my choice to have a child on my own.
VIP- programme 1
YES OR NO?
package of 6 hours of individual coaching
+ whatsapp- support 7/7
to be used as appropriate for your story
average duration of 10 weeks
live or video call or combination
I am there for you during the programma via whatsapp (support, answers, information, feedback, emergency messages,…).
Access to my closed Facebook group where you can ask questions and exchange experiences with other clients of this VIP programme (therefore small-scale and confidential!)
A valuable book of inspiration, especially composed for you, with extra tools to (optionally) get started on your own and further boost your selection process + audio recording of a visualisation exercise with a lot of impact
I want to offer you optimum quality and change.
That cannot happen if I offer assembly line coaching.
Each month I am glad to be able to make room for 5 new cliënts.
What is the investment in yourself?
You pay in two instalments: 685 euros each
Or you pay one lump sum of 1250 euros.
I would like to invite you for a free introductory meeting with no strings attached. Welcome!